​​​Tantra: Making Yoga Fans Moan Since Forever

 

It’s not about a happy ending … it’s about channeling energy up to the heart - a mind-blowing heart explosion.

 

Tantra

A word that makes floaty yoga fans moan with perceived enlightenment and is often used in spiritual Casanova circles as the ultimate “Pussy Pass”.

 

Once, I believed I hit the jackpot with a man who called himself a Tantra master. A gift from the universe!

Or so I thought.

In reality, he handed me a present stamped with a warning:

“Contains manipulation, gaslighting, and abuse… disguised as spirituality.” 

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What Tantra Truly Is

 

Tantra is an ancient spiritual tradition from India and Tibet. The word literally means “weaving” or “continuity,” integrating body, mind, and soul into deeper awareness.

Contrary to popular belief, Tantra is not just about sex - it’s a full spiritual path working with energy, consciousness and connection.

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The Heart of True Tantra

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• Conscious presence in every moment

• Finding the sacred in the ordinary

• Balancing masculine and feminine energies - Shiva & Shakti

• Deep connection with self, partner, and the cosmos

• Healing through breathwork, meditation and energetic mastery

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Sexuality is only one pathway in Tantra - a gateway to spiritual growth, not the destination.

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When Tantra Turns Into a Mindfuck

 

My so-called guru Tantra master introduced me to Tantra not as a path toward deep spiritual connection, but as a license for unchecked desire, often involving multiple women.

I was searching for healing ... but fell into his trap willingly.

“It’s all love” he whispered, undermining my boundaries by making me feel “unenlightened” for resisting.

 

Manipulation masquerading as spiritual awakening - the ultimate mind fuck.

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Not Every Orgasm Is Sacred: How to Spot Real Tantra

 

"If it doesn’t meet these criteria, it’s not Tantra — it’s spiritual manipulation wrapped in incense smoke and naked yoga."

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• True Tantra is patient and respectful → no coercion.

• It’s about connection, not domination or power.

• It respects boundaries and consent.

• It aims for spiritual growth, not just sex.

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Tantra is not an excuse for sexual abuse. It is not a free pass to cross boundaries under the pretense of an ‘energetic exchange.’
 

"True Tantra is not about sexual desire, but about deep presence, connection, and divine energy — something most so-called ‘Tantric masters’ conveniently forget to mention."

Tantra is about balancing the masculine and feminine, uniting opposites, and transcending the ego.
It’s not a quick fix to end up in someone’s bed under the illusion of spiritual enlightenment.

 

"But of course… that kind of Tantra doesn’t sell as well on Instagram.”

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Tantric Gaslighting: When Boundaries Become ‘Blocks’

 

"If someone tries to twist your boundaries into spiritual immaturity, that’s not Tantra — that’s textbook manipulation."

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• "You need to fully surrender to grow spiritually." → Used to undermine consent and personal boundaries.

• "Tantra is about sexual liberation, so you can’t have blockages." → Pressuring someone into sexual acts they don’t want.

• "I am your spiritual guide; you’re not advanced enough to understand this yet." → Classic guru gaslighting

• "Jealousy is ego; you need to learn to share in love." → Pushing polyamory under the cloak of transcendence.

• "By having sex with me, you receive a spiritual initiation." → Let’s call this what it is: abuse.

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This is not sacred teaching — it’s ego-driven manipulation packaged in white robes and incense.

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"It’s always the same script: the ‘wise’ Tantric man guiding his female disciples into ‘surrender’. And surrender inevitably means: ‘Let me do whatever I want.’"

 

If you resist? You’re “not spiritually ready.”

 

Newsflash: “The only divine thing about this energy is how well it’s wrapped in poetic bullshit.”

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Truth Bomb

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"Every ejaculation costs a man energy. Some 'masters' just keep spilling it until their soul runs dry."

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A man loses his energy - his life force - with every ejaculation. In Taoist tradition, semen is considered a reservoir of jing, or essential life energy. Each release depletes that reservoir, leaving him weaker, unfocused, sometimes emotionally flatlined.

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In Tantric and yogic traditions, this essence is called ojas — a subtle life force that drains with excessive ejaculation. That’s why after abstinence, many men feel stronger, clearer, more mentally sharp.

 

But here’s the kicker: when dopamine drops after orgasm, men crave new stimulation to get that high again. The hunting instinct kicks in. The compulsive urge to seek more. It’s biological — but in spiritual circles? It's disguised as divine desire.

For women, it works differently.

 

"A woman doesn’t lose energy through sex — she builds it."

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Many spiritual traditions suggest that women do not lose energy through sexual activity; rather, they can build and amplify energy through orgasms.

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According to Taoist and Tantric wisdom, female energy is circular, regenerative. Her orgasms don’t drain her — they amplify her. She becomes more alive, more radiant.

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While male energy flows outward, hers turns inward and upward. In Tantra, she is Shakti — creative, life-giving, powerful.

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Wake-Up Call: The Rise of Insta-Gurus

 

Ever noticed how Tantric masters are sprouting like mushrooms? You scroll Instagram and BAM — there’s one. Dreamy eyes. Flowing robes. A workshop on "Enlightened Orgasms in 7 Steps."

 

"Newsflash: Tantra is not a linen-robed gangbang."

 

I should know. I trained for eight years with the ultimate Tantra-master-of-abuse — my so-called Guru. The man had more spiritual excuses than a Catholic priest on confession day.

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• “You need to surrender more to the energy.” → Oh really? Maybe you need to surrender to a reality check.
• “Your resistance means you’re not spiritually mature.” → No honey, it means my intuition is screaming that you’re a smooth-talking fraud.

 

And yes — I fell for it.

 

"Because when you long for sacred connection, you want to believe. Even if it breaks you first."

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But somewhere along the road — bruised, burnt, exhausted — I woke the fuck up.

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"My bullshit detector is now sharp enough to cut through a mantra."

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To all the wannabe Tantric gurus who drop their pants under the banner of Shakti activation:

I see you. I’m not impressed.​

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How a Woman Loses Her Light

 

"Not all sex is healing. Sometimes it’s a soul drain disguised as spiritual growth."

 

• When the experience doesn’t align with her emotional and spiritual needs, she ends up depleted — not awakened.

• In an unbalanced relationship — where he takes more than he gives — she unconsciously bleeds her own energy.

• When she keeps pleasing, overgiving, self-abandoning, and calls it love… the result is burnout, not bliss.

 

"I know this story, because I lived it. And maybe you did too."

 

You meet a man who seems to have all the answers. The one who sees you. The one who seems to hold the key to that deeper connection you crave. And before you know it, you’re lost in his orbit.

My so-called guru? Claimed to be walking the path of Tantra — a “master.”

But the truth?

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"Sometimes, the man guiding your healing is the one who needs the most help."

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He wasn’t leading me toward light — he was siphoning mine.

 

 

The Performance of Surrender

 

Let me take you to a scene so absurd I can laugh about it now — though back then, it was anything but funny.

 

I remember a "session" where I was invited to connect more deeply with my body. Translation? I had to release something supernatural from my body - a sort of spiritual exorcism lite. Time to shake out the demons. According to him, there was always some angry energy stuck inside me that needed a dramatic exit.

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So there I was — eyes half-closed, pretending to be a surrendered goddess while he performed his signature ritual: shaking like a malfunctioning washing machine. 

He had developed a habit of shaking like a trembling house next to a railway track. A kind of human earthquake.

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"Apparently, the more you tremble, the more spiritual you are. Who knew?"

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I quickly figured out this was my ticket to getting through these sessions without too much drama. 

I played along. Just enough to keep him satisfied. Fake it till you make it, right? But eventually, simple shaking wasn’t enough. The bar was raised. It was time to upgrade.

Enter: The Karma Swing.

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The introduction of a new Tantric position. I’d describe it as something between “Karma 8” and the “Karma Swing”  (and believe me, Google was no help here). Picture this:

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Both of us flat on our backs, heads at each other's feet. Romantic? No. Acrobatic? Yes. Spiritual? Not even close.

He was waiting. I could feel it. But for what? I’m super sensitive to energy.

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"When I can feel a man wants something and I don’t know what — that’s when the anxiety creeps in."

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So I thought: Okay, time to bring out the theatrical skills and started shaking again. Nothing. Then came the whisper: “Surrender and feel deeply into your body.”- in his most spiritual voice. 

 

Right.

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That felt uncomfortable, to say the least. But by now I had learned that resistance only led to long, exhausting conversations about how I needed to “let go of my ego.”

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So I added hip rolls, arm waves — full-on shamanic storm mode. I gave him what he wanted.

And then… I caught my reflection.

Not a goddess. Not an enlightened disciple. I looked like a low-budget remake of The Exorcist. My head thrown back, my body twitching like a possessed being.

And in that moment? I snapped awake.

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"This wasn’t connection. This was choreography. I was cast as the spiritually submissive puppet — so he could keep believing in his illusion."

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But here’s the twist: while he thought he was in control, I was reclaiming mine.

I was slowly discovering my own power. He never understood that true healing isn’t found in pain - at least not if that pain only exists to keep someone else in control. No love. No connection. Only manipulation, wrapped in a spiritual sauce. 

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"True healing doesn’t happen through staged surrender. It happens the moment you stop playing along."

 

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The Goddess Awakens: From Illusion to Liberation

 

"He thought he was breaking me. But he was summoning the goddesses within me."

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What he never understood is that while I was shaking, bending, surrendering to his illusions — something else was happening inside me.

Durga was watching. Sword in hand. Silent. But ready.

Isis whispered ancient truth in my ear: "This is not sacred. This is shadow."

Mary Magdalene stood behind me — not as a sinner, but as a high priestess. Not as his fantasy, but as a force.

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"He called me a nun because I stopped performing for him. He thought my tattoo of Isis was an invitation. He had no idea it was a warning."

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He didn’t understand what true feminine power is. He never met a woman who knew how to walk away without looking back.

He used the word priestess like a kink — never grasping that a true priestess doesn’t kneel to man’s desire. She channels power. She initiates truth. She doesn’t climax for approval — she burns through bullshit.

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"I wasn’t a nun. I was a fcking oracle with a flaming sword."

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And that’s when I stopped shaking for him.

I stopped pretending.

I let go of the illusion — and let the goddesses rise.

Because real Tantra isn’t about surrendering to him.

It’s about returning to her.

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To Durga.
To Isis.
To the Magdalene within.

 

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Where the Illusion Becomes Dangerous

 

And this — this — is exactly where the danger lies:

The seductive idea that spiritual growth means blind surrender.
That being “open” means letting yourself be used in the name of healing.

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But this isn’t just spiritual bypassing.
This is spiritual abuse — wrapped in incense and dressed in linen.

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“Not all who say ‘Namaste’ are walking you home. Some are luring you into their web.”

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And yes, it’s tempting to fall for it.
Who doesn’t want to believe they’re in the arms of a master who holds the keys to the universe?

But behind the mantra lies a motive.

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Wake-Up Call: Trust Your Discernment

 

What I learned?

Critical thinking is sacred.

Not only in relationships, but especially on the spiritual path.

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You don’t need to believe every word — even if it’s said with a serene face and a slow, soothing voice.

You need to feel the truth — in your gut, not in his gospel.

Because manipulation wears many robes.
Sometimes it sounds like poetry. Sometimes it sounds like love.
But real guidance never crosses your boundaries.

 

“If someone’s ‘truth’ silences your intuition — it’s not truth. It’s control.”

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Critical thinking is your most powerful weapon in this world of charlatans

 

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Spiritual Bypassing vs. Spiritual Abuse

 

Let’s get clear.

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Spiritual bypassing = using spiritual concepts to avoid real work.
→ “Jealousy is ego.”
→ “Boundaries are blocks.”

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Translation? You’re inconvenient.

Example: A “Tantra master” who claims that jealousy or setting boundaries is a sign of spiritual immaturity - while in reality, he is trying to exert power over someone.

 

Spiritual abuse = using status, teachings or rituals to control and exploit.
→ “Sex with me is a form of energy healing.”
→ “Your resistance is just fear of your own power.”

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Translation? You’re a playground.

Example: A “guru” or Tantra teacher who claims that sex with him is a form of “energy healing,” while in truth, he is simply pursuing his own desires.

 

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Red Flags Dressed as Teachings

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• “Your resistance to me means you’re not spiritually advanced enough yet.” → Gaslighting in glitter.

• “You need to let go of your ego and surrender to my guidance.” → Coercion in costume.

• “Your sexual energy must be activated by me.” → Manipulation wrapped in mysticism.

• “If you were truly enlightened, you’d understand why I’m doing this.” → Control disguised as insight.

 

“If surrender only ever means giving him what he wants, it’s not surrender. It’s submission.”

 

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She Is the Gateway

 

Once you truly see through it — really see —
you’ll stop worshipping the “Tantra master” archetype altogether.

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The truth?

The nature of man is to hunt. Always searching, always pursuing his prey.
The nature of woman is to hold.
She is the bridge between heaven and earth.

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For her, that’s her essence.
For him, it takes transformation.

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A woman’s sexual energy is creation, life, flow.
The man’s task is not to own it — but to honor it.

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She doesn’t need to be awakened.
She is the awakening.

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“She is the flame. The doorway. The temple. And she decides who enters.”

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A woman’s sexual energy comes from the deep, creative, life-giving force that flows within her. She lives in her sexual power, while the man must learn to suppress, control, and master his animalistic sexual instincts. And that means: she holds the upper hand. She is the absolute Goddess, the one who leads the man and teaches him how to treat her as the divine being she is - with the highest reverence she deserves.

 

We talk about equality, about equal rights, but women are still oppressed in this society. Her sexual power is not accepted. The pleasure of the man is still prioritized. We are still sold the idea that the man is the leader… in everything. But from my toes to my soul, everything in me screams: The woman is the true leader in the dance of lovers. 

 

 

The Erotic Lie

 

He tried to convince me — over and over — that a woman could only reach orgasm through the magical rod of a man.

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Seriously?
According to his so-called “Tantric rules,” a clitoral orgasm was demonic.

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"BARF. My clit has more spiritual intelligence than your entire chakra system."

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I followed his guidance for years.

The result?

• Exhaustion.

• Suppression.

• Loss of feminine power.

Because when a woman is led by a man toward connection, it will never be sacred, there will never be divine pleasure.

 

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Reclaiming Tantra

 

Is this ego? No.

This is me — walking through hell, and crawling back into heaven.

There is no path I haven’t touched. No doorway I haven’t opened.
And every time, I returned to my own truth.

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Tantra is sacred.
But it can only exist between a man and a woman who choose each other fully and walk the same path.

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Not just with the body.
But with the soul.
With honesty. With devotion. With a shared fire to grow - Universal Divine

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It’s not about what happens in the bedroom, but about a deep, sincere choice to support one another in the journey of growth and spiritual discovery. Tantra is about purifying the energy between two people who open themselves fully to each other - not about sharing that energy with others.

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That’s Tantra.

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Not threesomes, foursomes, .… Not chaos. That’s just a spiritual glaze hiding abuse and deception.
Not self-proclaimed masters building sex temples with spiritual excuses.

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It might seem attractive on the surface, but it’s far from the sacred connection that Tantra truly is. It’s a distraction - a diversion from the real power that arises when two souls come together in complete devotion and trust.

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“If it’s marketed like porn and smells like patchouli — it’s probably not Tantra.”

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The Tantrica Illusion: Spiritual Sex Work in Disguise

 

He spoke of tantricas like they were vessels of sacred power. But when I scratched beneath the surface, it was nothing more than spiritual prostitution.

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"A so-called tantrica who allows a man to climax isn’t a priestess — she’s a spiritual escort with a goddess costume."

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He told me about one. She came over multiple times for a "Tantric massage." When I asked how it went, he smirked: "She likes to run to the edge."

Translation? Full sexual satisfaction.

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He later admitted she wasn’t “pretty enough” — so when they finally had sex, he covered her face.

Let that sink in.

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"A woman who desecrates sacred teachings for male pleasure loses all radiance, no matter how pretty her shell."

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And the worst part? I felt it, even before I knew it. Her energy. His lies. The betrayal beneath his spiritual mask.

This isn’t Tantra. This is abuse. This is a violation of trust, body, and truth — packaged in chants and essential oils.

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"You’re misusing people’s vulnerability, you fucking assholes. And you’re polluting the sacred field."

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It’s like cutting down every tree in a forest just to build a temple for your ego.

No. This is not the path to enlightenment.
This is the path to spiritual decay.

 

 

Tantrica: Sacred Guide or Spiritual Camouflage?

 

A tantrica can be many things:
A teacher. A guide. A practitioner.
Someone who walks the path of Tantra with integrity — who helps others experience deep, holistic connection through the sacred union of body, soul, and spirit.

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She works with:

• Meditation

• Breathwork

• Ritual

• Touch

• and yes — life force energy (often misunderstood as just sexual energy)

 

But here’s the truth:

 

“Sexual energy is not just about sex. It is life energy. Creative energy. Rooted power. It is the first breath of manifestation.”

 

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First Chakra — Root of All Creation

 

This energy flows upward.
It is not meant to be dumped or depleted — it is meant to be honored, cultivated, and channeled.

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“When misused, it becomes lust. When honored, it becomes creation.”

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So when we speak of sexual energy in Tantra, we’re not talking about lust or climax.
We’re speaking of the spark that births galaxies — the same force that grows trees, creates new life, and fuels your deepest passions.

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What a Real Tantrica Embodies

 

So yes — a tantrica may work with this primal energy,
but not to arouse or entertain.
She works with it to awaken,
to transform,
to initiate truth.

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“She doesn’t teach you how to come. She teaches you how to come home — to your body, your breath, your being.”

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Because…

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“A real tantrica is not defined by what she does — but by what she embodies.”

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She is embodiment.
She is wisdom in motion.
She is the pulse of the sacred — grounded, powerful, and pure.

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The Woman Who Knows

 

A tantrica, in my eyes, is first and foremost a Woman — not just someone who has studied the sacred, but someone who has lived it.

A woman who has touched the sincere, raw, divine truth of sacred sexuality.
A woman who knows that transformation is the goal.

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She doesn't chase climax.
She awakens the heart.

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No Happy Endings. No Illusions.

 

“What I’ve learned is this: a tantrica can awaken your energy, guide you through breath and touch… but she doesn’t finish the session with a moan and a mess.”

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I say this with fire in my throat and clarity in my heart:

No Happy Ending. Period.

 

That kind of superficial satisfaction has nothing to do with sacred Tantra. This isn’t about friction. This is about frequency.

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Real Tantra?

It’s about a pure explosion in the heart. And maybe — just maybe — a stairway to heaven.
But only if you're ready to meet the divine with devotion, not with your pants down.

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Sacred or Sold?

 

Now let’s get real.

Women who offer “Tantric massages” and allow men to climax?

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“That’s not Tantra. That’s sex work in a spiritual disguise.”

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I don’t care how many crystals are in the room or how soft the playlist is.

If the session ends in ejaculation,
you’ve entered a brothel with incense.

And it’s not just dishonest — it’s spiritually violent.

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“If you’re climaxing to enlightenment, you’re not rising — you’re leaking.”

 

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This Is Not the Path

 

This isn’t a path to liberation. It’s a shortcut to spiritual darkness.

To those women selling sacred touch for orgasmic release, I say this not with judgment, but with fire:

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“Get back on your pillow and pray to God. You’re not serving the divine — you’re desecrating it.”

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Tantra is holy.
It’s not a performance.
It’s not a sales pitch.
It’s not about making him feel like a god.

It’s about becoming one — together — through truth, reverence, and energy that rises beyond the body.

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“If you feel the divine, you never want to touch the other that is not your true one in life.”

 

 

The Tantrica Illusion: Spiritual Sex Work in Disguise

 

He spoke of tantricas like they were vessels of sacred power. But when I scratched beneath the surface, it was nothing more than spiritual prostitution.

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"A so-called tantrica who allows a man to climax isn’t a priestess — she’s a spiritual escort with a goddess costume."

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He told me about one. She came over multiple times for a "Tantric massage." When I asked how it went, he smirked: "She likes to run to the edge."

Translation? Full sexual satisfaction.

He later admitted she wasn’t “pretty enough” — so when they finally had sex, he covered her face.

Let that sink in.

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"A woman who desecrates sacred teachings for male pleasure loses all radiance, no matter how pretty her shell."

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And the worst part? I felt it, even before I knew it. Her energy. His lies. The betrayal beneath his spiritual mask.

This isn’t Tantra. This is abuse. This is a violation of trust, body, and truth — packaged in chants and essential oils.

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"You’re misusing people’s vulnerability, you fucking assholes. And you’re polluting the sacred field."

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It’s like cutting down every tree in a forest just to build a temple for your ego.

No. This is not the path to enlightenment. This is the path to spiritual decay.

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The Cult of Control: From Azar to Ashes

 

My so-called guru wasn’t the first. He had his own master: Azar Baksh — self-proclaimed The Heart Himself.

 

"Another man with a massive mother complex and zero control over his dick."

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Azar taught him that women must be trained — she is worth nothing without him. Or more precisely: without “him.” Because just like my ex, Azar thinks he owns the only sacred rod on Earth. BARF.

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"According to my ex twisted dogma, clitoral orgasms are demonic. Seriously? Welcome to the 12th century."

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I’ve read Azar’s writings. They reek of control masked as divine insight. And if he ever reads this? He’d say I’m the problem. That I just can’t receive him.

Well guess what, Azar?

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"I no longer receive men who believe their semen is divine milk from the gods."

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Your bulshit-spiced cult logic doesn’t land here. Like all narcissists and manipulators: the other is always the problem. 

If you’re already lost in the Rainbow Community, you’ll never find your way through his spiritual nonsense.

 

His teachings split women into two types: Earthly (wild and lost) and Heart (pure and loyal). And the man? He needs both to be whole.

Voilà. The trio theory. An orgy wrapped in a scripture. The first spiritual free pass for a man who believes he must own multiple women.

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"When my guru asked Azar for advice on building his 'female empire', my whole nervous system screamed: RUN."

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These teachings aren’t spiritual — they’re a how-to manual for narcissists.

Spiritual terms twisted to justify domination. Disguising control as care. Turning boundaries into “resistance.”

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A few gems from his “theory” I’ll share with you here - but believe me, there’s more. This deserves a whole story of its own. 

But for now, let’s try not to let your brain short-circuit on his mystical gibberish. I know ... that confusion, that vague spiritual lingo. It sounds like some deeply hidden cosmic wisdom, but in reality? It’s just a steaming pot of abuse, seasoned with a heavy dose of manipulation. 

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So if you’re in the middle of it - or if you’ve stumbled across this kind of content - take my advice: Read diagonally.
A quick scan is more than enough to recognize the absurdity, without falling into the whirlpool of divine bullshit. Because trust me - you don’t want to accidentally force your third eye open out of pure frustration.